Saturday, April 28, 2007

Would you leave a lousy tip?

This week we hit one of our usual haunts. But this time, we had somewhat bad service, which is unusual given that we've mostly been pleased with this place over the years.

That happens - you never know what can go wrong in a busy dining establishment at dinner time. One tragedy, such as a failing oven, can throw the whole system out of balance.

In this case, we waited a bit longer than usual for a server to approach us - Problem #1. The dining room seemed a bit busier than we've seen, so I guess that was the reason. One server finally noticed we'd been sitting there and had not yet had coasters placed on our table, (the secret sign that servers use to tell each other that your table has been "claimed.")

"Well, I guess I'll help you since apparently nobody cares," she said, though I thought that was an odd statement to share with the customer, but then I don't know much about the business practices. We sort of felt honored, I suppose.

She brought our drinks and took our orders. But then Problem #2 came up. My meal normally comes with beans, but they were out of beans. No biggie, I guess, so I reluctantly chose from the alternatives she offered.

Our meals arrived somewhat delayed because of the great numbers of diners, I would imagine, but alas, so too did Problems #3 and #4. There was no silverware, and the fries weren't quite ready. She said, "Sorry there's no silverware - the kitchen's running a little behind. I'll be out with your fries shortly."

So there I am eating my hamburger, and my wife is sitting there with a more traditional meal waiting for her silverware. I got about halfway through my hamburger, wishing I had some fries to break up the monotony of that single item, while my wife sat there busily watching her food get cold when the server finally arrived with my fries.

I said, "Is her silverware coming?" She looked at me with a look that said, Oh, Yeah! Sorry about that, and ran off again. Now I had fries to eat with my hamburger, to which my wife helped herself, given that she was still staring at her ever-growing colder meal. The server returned with the silverware so my wife could begin eating. I finished my burger a few moments later, so I just sat and picked at the fries while she finished her meal so that there was some semblance of dining together.

Who is at fault?

So basically our dining experience was affected by at least four things:

  1. The delay in establishing an initial relationship with a server
  2. No standard beans with the meal I ordered
  3. No silverware
  4. No fries

Of these, which are the responsibility of this specific server?

Problem #1 - though we found it annoying that we sat waiting for our server, this particular server decided to break away from her station to serve us. Can't find fault with that.

Problem #2 - unless this server was somehow "pushing the beans," I can't think of any way this could have been her fault.

Problem #3 - she claims the kitchen was not producing clean silverware as they should. She went on to state that the dish washer told her that servers were discarding silverware, so it wasn't his fault. I'm not sure how that information was to add to our dining experience, but there it was. It's debatable at what point the silverware became available versus when this server found the time to deliver it, so responsibility for Problem #3 goes unclaimed.

Problem #4 - this is also debatable. Is the delay of fries the kitchen's fault, or the server's fault? She had no story about arguments with the kitchen over the fries, and it may be a standard in the restaurant business to serve fries when one is halfway finished with their hamburger, so this goes unclaimed as well.

How much to tip?

One thing that seems to add to the already controversial subject of tipping is the fact that in most cases, you're tipping your main server, but sometimes the service for which you are compensating is beyond the control of that server.

Is it fair to penalize a server who is delayed because it's extra busy at that hour? That's more a function that management is supposed to be handling. And THIS server stepped in. We cannot limit the tip from the person assigned to that table who never showed up.

What about the beans, silverware, and fries? Suppose those were entirely the kitchen's fault. The kitchen's not delivering, and who takes the brunt? The server who's not bringing out the items to serve our needs. How can we hold the server at fault for that? Yet many do.

But it is indeed the server to whom we turn to measure a restaurant's fulfillment of the overall dining experience, and the server to whom we measure the amount of additional compensation to apply in the form of a tip based on that experience.

All that said, a server does present the face of the establishment, and can go great lengths to turn problems into solutions. In our minds, this server's critique of her fellow servers and the kitchen staff left us with little belief that she was seeking to preserve much more than her tip.

However, perhaps that is the environment in which servers, the customer service representatives of the restaurant business, are placed in order to secure a living.

We took everything into consideration and ended up leaving her what we would have if service was more like what we have come to expect from this establishment.

But many would have left a lesser tip, or worse, because of the perceived lack of service. When thinking about what to leave as a tip, please consider who you're tipping, and why.


At Saturday, April 28, 2007 11:18:00 PM, Blogger James Burnett said...

This is a tough one. My snap judgment would be to punish the server. But I often feel that instinct right after bad service. Still, in the end, I feel so bad for what I know servers have to go through on a regular basis that I end up tipping well anyway.

I'd say the server had good excuses. But she could have lied. Maybe there was clean silverware but she simply forgot to bring it to your wife or was just bogged down with other tables. The late fries could have been the kitchen's fault. Or they could have been up and waiting and the server simply forgot to bring them right away or was just bogged down with other tables. And so on and so forth.

I say you have to err on the side of caution and give her a good tip anyway.

At Sunday, April 29, 2007 8:16:00 AM, Blogger The Sarcasticynic said...

James, I recently read that by definition, patrons of an eating establishment are more likely to earn a higher income than the wait staff. I agree with you that we should just tip as we would always. The old adage that TIPS stands for To Ensure Prompt Service has lost all its meaning today.

At Wednesday, May 02, 2007 6:26:00 PM, Blogger TherapyDoc said...

You tip no matter what, as well as possible, I think, but I'm just feeling sorry for service industry peops in gen. The fries part, of course, hurts.

At Saturday, May 05, 2007 9:05:00 AM, Blogger Springs1 said...

Silverware-SERVER'S FAULT 100%, because she should have took NOTICE of this the first moment she greeted you and got on the ball to go get you some utensils. She should have NEVER served you food without utensils, NOR should the customer have to TELL their server they don't have any.

Beans-NOT the server's fault at all. HOW can it be? If they are out of something, how the heck could that be the fault of ANY of the wait staff besides maybe the manager for not ordering enough possibly or maybe they just sold more than they thought.

Fries-Server's fault 100%. If the meal was not complete, meaning the side dishes were not out, she should have NEVER served the food to the customers. I am willing to bet she forgot to put the order in for the fries, but just blamed the kitchen staff. They should have put the food under the heat lamp and cooked the fries BEFORE bringing the food out wrong. I would like to know if you had to REMIND her of the fries or did she tell you they were delayed? If you had to remind her of them, she forgot for sure without a doubt.

As far as the tip goes, I would have tipped 10%. Lousy service as far as I am concerned. NO SERVER SHOULD EVER SERVE ANY FOOD WITHOUT UTENSILS, EVER! I am willing to bet that server NEVER NOTICED you all didn't have utensils until you brought it to her attention which I feel you SHOULDN'T have to do. That's the SERVER'S job to make sure you can eat your food properly.


Post a Comment

<< Home